Some women say that you truly can have it all. You can have the killer career, the perfect family, the great body and happiness. I agree with this to an extent.
The other day I was listening to a podcast (unfortunately I cannot remember what it was) and the woman said a phrase I had heard before, but that struck a chord with me. She said, “you can have everything, just not all at once”. I had to pause the podcast right then, write it down, and think on it.
We are told opposing things about having it all, and maybe that’s because there is a gray area. Maybe having it all is not about having it all at once, but finding balance within all those things. Some days you may be killing it at your job, but not as locked in at home. Other days you may be supermom and a subpar employee. The point is not to have it all at once, but rather to have it all in doses.
In reality, it is not sustainable to be everything all the time. If you hold yourself to that standard, then you are just setting yourself up for failure and continued disappointment. Some things take time to build. Some things happen before others. These steps in the right direction do not mean that you do not have it all or you will never have it all, but that it doesn’t happen all at once and will not remain that way if it does.
So, take comfort in the fact that you can have it all, just not necessarily all at the same time. Give yourself grace and remain optimistic. You are not failing as long as you keep trying.