Awareness

Becoming more aware of yourself is tricky business. As I pursue my master's in counseling, I can't help but reflect what I am learning on myself. Part of the program is this sense of personal development and growth, but with growth comes pain sometimes. Learning to understand deeper feelings and meanings behind the words people…

You Are What You Focus On

I heard someone say this on a podcast this morning, "you are what you focus on," and it got me thinking. What do I spend my time thinking about and fixating on? Do I think about my family and my overall happiness, or am I caught up in the comparison game? You know how when…

Unrealistic

How many times a day or a week do you have unrealistic expectations about yourself, your time or your life? Lord knows I have these thoughts all the damn time. They pop up out of nowhere and cause oodles of anxiety for no reason. Unrealistic thoughts and expectations can be comparing yourself to someone who…

Pretend

“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.” - Kurt Vonnegut I really like this quote. I have never really thought about how and who we pretend to be as adults. To pretend is to act or envision ourselves as something we are not. In…

Real or Make-believe

Distinguishing between what is real and what we are making up in our minds can be difficult. Working from home and for myself makes this a constant battle for me. I find myself believing that if I am not working 8 hours a day 5 days a week, then I am not doing a good…

Stay in your lane

I love the phrase "stay in your lane". No one enjoys having their toes stepped on, and this statement is a fun way to say back off. However, this idea can be applied to our thoughts as well as our actions. When we are worrying about something, it is because we are not in our…

Limited Thinking

Do you ever find yourself limiting your abilities or second-guessing yourself? What happens when you do this? Do you then spiral into a self-loathing pity party? My guess is that you do. When we have limited thinking we get limited results. I have said it before, and I will say it again, you are what…

Overthinking

You hear people talking about how bad it is to overthink things. I agree with this in a lot of ways, but I also believe that there is a time and place for it as well. It can serve as a way to plan and get clarity. When I am unsure of something, I like to…

Get out of your own way

When it comes to working from home or really doing anything in life that only you can control you have to get out of your own way. Often times this means working hard and making difficult decisions. Getting out of your own way is a matter of getting over yourself and doing what needs to…

Confidence in yourself

I would not describe myself as confident. Although I like to speak my mind and am honest with people, I am not always confident in myself. In fact, I am almost always second-guessing my words and actions. Having confidence in yourself is a fantastic strength. It is having the ability to trust and put yourself…