I have no idea what I’m doing

This is the honest truth. I have no clue what I am doing most of the time. No matter how prepared you think you are to be an adult and manage your life, things happen that throw you off your game. I have recently been working through this lack of knowledge and living in this…

You Are What You Focus On

I heard someone say this on a podcast this morning, "you are what you focus on," and it got me thinking. What do I spend my time thinking about and fixating on? Do I think about my family and my overall happiness, or am I caught up in the comparison game? You know how when…

Welcome to Holland

Ok, for those of you who read the title of this blog and know what I am referencing kudos! However, don't stop reading if you think you know what I will be talking about. For those who are unfamiliar with "Welcome to Holland," it is an essay written in 1987 by American author and social…

Loss for Change

I started reading Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb today. I literally only read 7 pages and already found a game-changing quote. She talks about change and says this, "As a therapist, I know a lot about pain, about the ways in which pain is tied to loss. But I also know…

Refocus

I am so thankful that I can get away sometimes. I have a tendency to really wear myself out and get bogged down with my own overwhelming thoughts and ambitions. Even the busiest of vacations can provide me with the clarity needed to come back and refocus. I have found that it is particularly tricky,…

Unrealistic

How many times a day or a week do you have unrealistic expectations about yourself, your time or your life? Lord knows I have these thoughts all the damn time. They pop up out of nowhere and cause oodles of anxiety for no reason. Unrealistic thoughts and expectations can be comparing yourself to someone who…

Control

We all want to be in control all the time right? We want things to go our way or not at all. The reality, however, is that life does not work that way. Having control is not something we get to choose. You either have it, or you don't. The good news is that you…

Real or Make-believe

Distinguishing between what is real and what we are making up in our minds can be difficult. Working from home and for myself makes this a constant battle for me. I find myself believing that if I am not working 8 hours a day 5 days a week, then I am not doing a good…

Cut it off at the source

Have you ever noticed that worry creates worry? You have a thought, and you let fester. Before you know it, that thought has morphed into worry. This worry then leads you down a path of more thoughts and more worry. Worrying is a vicious cycle. It can lead to anxiety depression and frustration if "untreated." …

Constant Progress

Do you ever get caught feeling like if you are not making direct progress on your goals, you are failing? Today I am feeling this way. Often times it can feel like if you stop climbing for a second, you are sliding backward. Pulling yourself out of this lie and thought can be difficult. With…